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Can We Be Honest?

15 Monday Nov 2021

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Telling the truth was always hard for me. It’s not like I was lying. In fact, I wasn’t saying anything at all. Being taught to not speak of the truth impaired my ability to process. To heal. I became numb to pain that was so harmful to my soul I couldn’t recognize how hurt I really was. Before you can live a life of truth you must acknowledge what aches in you. Learning to sit with yourself and allow the truth to stir in you. That is the discovery that changes everything. The Lord will not allow us to walk around numb forever. There will come a moment when it’s just you and Him and all the funk within you and his love collide. It’s a meeting of the heart, mind, and soul. Many of us will run till we die to try and avoid what hurts. Can I give you some momma advice? Stop running away from you. You will always be where you are. Good thing is, Jesus will always be ready to listen. His pursuit of you and your heart will never end. Are you ready to know the truth that sets you free? His name is Jesus. He is relentless about seeing you whole. Free from deep rooted sorrow and neglect. It won’t happen overnight. This is the Lords doing. He knows what we can handle. He’s gentle. Patient. Kind. Forgiving. He’s everything we don’t know how to be to ourselves. I pray you take a step closer to Jesus today. That you be honest with yourself and let him come and show you how to be whole. You’ll never regret it, I promise you.

Love, Em ❤️

Change of Scenery

28 Thursday May 2020

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I remember it so well, crossing the California border headed to Texas. I had no idea what God had in store for us. All I knew was it was gonna be good…eventually. We saw so much potential and possibilities but never realized the journey ahead was for healing. We had so much toxic surrounding us. Every where we went it was there. Unhealthy relationships. Broken dreams. Messed up mind sets. Damaged trust. In Gods grace and mercy he took us to a safe place to heal. To find him, again. To find each other, again. To find ourselves, perhaps for the first time. I love our story of how God redeems everything if we let him. We must yield to his careful hands to take what’s toxic and broken and turn it into something healthy and whole. Only he can do it. Don’t resist his tugging you away. Isolation can be hard as we all have seen in recent days. He has to take you aside and silence the noise for you to hear him speak truth. Life. Healing. Into EVERY broken place. You are safe there. It will hurt, but you’ll heal. I realized after all these years that he was preparing us for the hardest journey we’d ever face. We needed to be emotionally whole to deal with the physical torment of cancer ahead. I’m so glad we said yes. I promise you’ll never regret the change of scenery that healing offers. Go my friend and be healed. ❤️

Forgiveness 

30 Tuesday May 2017

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Forgiveness.

That’s a tough subject for many, especially when you’ve been deeply hurt. A big part of my story revolved around the wrong definition of what forgiveness meant. Questions led to fear and that fear led to beating myself up over and over again unknowingly leaving the door open to more hurt. 

What is forgiveness? 

To make a choice to pardon or release someone based on a wrong they did…that’s forgiveness. It’s doesn’t at all mean that the wrong was justified or that it never happened. Some think that to forgive is to admit that what someone did wasn’t wrong. That you, the one hurt, doesn’t have a reason to be hurt or offended. That they, the offender, is off the hook. Wrong! There are consequences, but we are not always the one to determine what those are. It is NOT a get out of jail free card for them…it’s for you. To be free from anger, resentment, bitterness, and pain. It’s a gift you give yourself. 

I was taught that just so long as they said “sorry” that was enough. Well, that’s not enough for me and I found that’s not enough for God either. He requires more, a godly sorrow that leads to repentance and a change of heart and actions. 

“For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death. Just see what this godly sorrow produced in you! Such earnestness, such concern to clear yourselves, such indignation, such alarm, such longing to see me, such zeal, and such a readiness to punish wrong. You showed that you have done everything necessary to make things right.” ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭7:10-11‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Proof is what I like to call it. How many times have you asked for forgiveness and turned around and did the same thing again? Or, someone has said sorry only to turn around and repeat their behavior? We must live by Gods standard, especially if we hold others to them. 

What isn’t forgiveness? 

Forgiveness is not shoving things under the carpet. Forgiveness is not forgetting it ever happened. That’s denial and avoidance. Doing this hides us from the truth and closing the door on our healing. Pain left unhealed blinds us to our future. We can’t move forward because we are always looking back. 

Forgiveness doesn’t have to establish a relationship. This is where so many people have it wrong. They think to forgive is to allow that someone back in your life. In some cases this will happen and relationships can be restored. Sometimes, relationships are altered and require strict boundaries, if not a temporary or permanent separation. Take abuse for example. Should someone who is being abused allow the abuser access to them just because they apologized? Or should there be boundaries that limit relationship and access until a pattern of sincerity and changed behavior is proven? 

Sadly, so many of us don’t know how to forgive and begin the process of healing because we have been misinformed. 

Forgiveness is a choice. Gods word tells us to forgive so that we can be forgiven. 

“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭6:14-15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Although we may never do what someone has done to us we are not perfect. We too, are human. Imperfect. It’s a process. We are a process. It took me a moment to forgive and years to walk out the process of healing. It took a moment to ask for forgiveness, but time to learn a new way. This is a process that if we can walk it out no matter the pain, we can be free, eventually.  Free from the stains we caused and free from the stains that others have left behind. 

I don’t pretend to have it all together. Many days I have to remind myself that it takes time. Being quick to forgive is hard, but freeing. Knowing that I need Gods forgiveness keeps my heart pliable to truth…Gods truth. 

I pray Gods truth would be louder than our past hurts, lies, and misunderstandings. My desire is that we can move forward and experience healing, healing that leads to freedom. Freedom that helps us set others free! 

Em ❤️ 

Sticks and Stones 10/24/15 

24 Saturday Oct 2015

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Happy Saturday friends!!

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me…what a lie. 

All I heard was “you’re not” and then everything went fuzzy. Why go there?  Why use those words? I must have a big red button on my heart revealing my weakness and fears. I felt like I’d been beat up with words of anger, frustration, and bitterness. Their disappointments spoke and left questions in my mind. Were they right? The thought that I even questioned mysef made me angry and despondent {without hope or courage}. 

I’ve come to realize that hurting people hurt. They lash out with arrows full of poison. Whether they use their words or actions it hurts all the same. I’ve been guilty mysef. It wasn’t my intention but it was the result. Unless we allow the Lord to heal us we will rot from the inside out. When our hurts are so deep they will choke out every bit of hope and expectation in us and those around us. We will eventually become so toxic that drastic measures will need to be taken. The deeper the pain, wound, hurt, the greater the healing needed to root it all out. This is a painful process but not an impossible one. 

My dear friends, if you are in pain let me encourage you to take it to the Great Physician…Jesus. There is nothing that he can not heal. Surrender every ache, sorrow and wounded part of your life today. It’s time you start living pain free. The process won’t kill you but it will make you stronger. I’m living proof that the healing comes slowly but surely just don’t give up!! 

Jesus take a hold of everyone who reads these words and bring hope. Heal every secret place in them. Go deep Lord and do a mighty work that showcases your healing power. I come against every lie and word spoken against your truth in their lives. Bring comfort. Restoration. Salvation. Healing. In your name we pray…Amen!! 

Dysfunction 10/15/16 

15 Thursday Oct 2015

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Good afternoon friends!! 

Got any dysfunctional {unhealthy behaviors or attitudes} habits? I think it’s safe to say we all do. Are they causing pain? Relational problems? Health issues? Maybe it’s time for some change. 

Growing up I had dysfunctional habits that as an adult were so very hard to break. Many of them dealt purely with the way I thought about things. The bible tells us “as a man thinks so is he.” I was a mess to say the least. I didn’t know how to be or think any other way. I knew in my heart the dysfunction was not normal but I had no idea how to break free. 

Even though my support system was mighty {and patient} I needed to want to be whole. No one can decide for you! You have to acknowledge the dysfunction and move to correct it. There is a way that leads to right believing and right living…his name is Jesus! No, he didn’t come down and make everything better in one moment {that would have been my plan} instead he had a plan {let me add I wasn’t invited to this meering} to get me where he wanted me to be and all he needed was my willingness to get there. To list it all would take forever {this would my testimony to the world one day} but take my word it wasn’t easy. This process started 8 years ago {I told you I was a mess} and I am so proud of the progress I’ve made. The Lord loved me enough that he allowed some heartbreaking situations to lead me to freedom. I had to choose to fight, push, and even sometimes crawl but I wasn’t going to give up on me. For the first time in my life I felt that I was important. God had opened my eyes to see me as he saw me…what a beautiful person I saw that I would have to learn to love.

  • Don’t despise the process! It may be long, hard, and down right ugly but it’s for your good.
  •  Don’t try to rush it! Healing takes time. Learning how to be healthy {mind, body, soul} doesn’t happen over night.  
  • Don’t give up! You have to be committed to yourself and the Lord. Trust the process is working even though you may not see immediate results.

If you’ve been feeing a tug at your heart to get some things straight, changed, and healed then let me be the first to say “yahoo!” You are worth it!! Don’t ignore the still small voice that is calling out to you. Your healing and destiny is worth the time it will take to make you free!!  

Prayer for Today 9-27-15 

27 Sunday Sep 2015

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Good morning friends!!

From the moment I woke up I had the thought that I needed to call someone specific to pray with me and then the word “allies” immediately came to mind {I am learning to not dismiss the little things or the little movies that play out in my mind. This is a new concept that has set me free from thinking I am crazy or random}. Leviticus 26:8 said that…Five of you shall chase a hundred, and a hundred of you shall chase ten thousand, and your enemies shall fall before you by the sword. 

There is power in unity and joining forces with our allies {ally: to join yourself with another person, group, etc., in order to get or give support} is what the Lord is calling us to do, today. He never gives us a strategy that will fail. We must pray from a standpoint of victory and who we align ourselves with matters. We need people who will fight with us in prayer and not let go until victory has been manifested. Go and unite and see strongholds broken, captives set free, the sick be healed, our families be whole, financial stability and abundance to overflow and for God to invade our lives with his presence!!!  

I pray today that we become aware of who is with us and for us; that our allies will be evident and that we have the courage to join with them. I pray a spirit of boldness to overtake us as we pray in unity with one another for where two or more are gathered we know that You are in our midst. We thank you for strategies that lead us into victory at every turn. Open our ears to hear your voice and our eyes to see what you see. Lord let us walk out in the natural what already is in the spirit. In Jesus name we pray AMEN!! 

Its Time 

14 Monday Sep 2015

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I don’t believe in luck. I don’t believe whatever will be will be. There are no coincidences. God is very purposeful with every detail of our lives. My thirties was a decade of radical change and transformation. I never imagined the series of events that would have led to where I am today. Had I known I would have stepped in and tried to change them. I am comforted in the fact that ALL things work for my good when Jesus is for me. It has taken almost 10 years to heal and recoup from hurts, brokenness, loss, lies, and separations that I never saw coming. I have been given the privilege of being hidden away for a purpose I have yet to see come to pass. My journey has not been easy but I’m so glad I walked it. I now know why God hides things from us. If we knew, we would step in and try to take over, change the script, rearrange a few things, and hinder his intended purpose{don’t lie you would too}. I was a woman living in the muck and mire of my past. I was afraid of a lot of thing but not anymore!! 

Well, today is the last day of my thirties and tomorrow begins a new chapter in the life of Emilie. I truly believe in new beginnings and am looking forward to what this next season will look like. I am grateful that I said yes to Jesus and allowed him to do what needed to be done…healing. There is a time and a purpose for everything. My sincerest prayer is that we all come to the realization that Jesus is for us. His intention is for our good. Don’t resist the healing and correcting hand of God. He is gentle and kind {even if you feel like your dying}. He is full of grace and mercy {even when you feel like you’re failing and far from him}. You are worth the time it takes to become all that he has planned for you! I pray you know the depths of Gods love for you and trust that where he guides is the safest place for you {even though you’re terrified}. Be strong and courageous! Don’t be afraid for the Lord is with you!! 💞 

A Closer Look 

21 Friday Aug 2015

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I didn’t realize it was me. I had always been the hurt one. The easily offended one. But why? The self reflection process is not an easy one. We all have places we don’t want to go to inwardly. Dealing with these hidden places takes courage and requires absolute honesty with yourself and God. Our default mode {you fill in the blank} is a learned behavior. For me, there were real reasons I felt the way I did. Hurt. Abandoned. Betrayed. It wasn’t fair. It wasn’t right, but too many people were paying the price for my tainted perspective including me and enough was enough. I finally got tired and decided to fix the problem…me. I may not have created the problem but I did have to take responsibility for how I handled it. People will continue to be imperfect but it can no longer trigger my old default {offense, people pleasing, lack of confidence, fear}. I have been reprogrammed by the love and care of a good God. This healing process came at a dear price but I’m so glad I didn’t give up. You are worth the process of your healing. It will take time. There will be a lot of tears but if you’re consistent healing will come. You have too much to do to not be whole and free. Allow God to go deeper and he promises you’ll never be the same! All in favor of healing say I!!